Friday, December 14, 2012

A Mensch

When they asked me, "What are you looking for?" I said, "A mensch."

A mensch first and foremost.

Someone who takes his Judaism seriously, but also knows how to have a good time.
Someone who comes from a great family.
Tall wouldn't hurt.
But really?  Someone who is kind.  Patient.  Pays attention to others.

On a date, we passed a toll booth.
You said to the toll collector, with a big smile, "Hi there!!  How are you doing today??"  Your enthusiasm was so genuine and kind.  As we rolled away from the window, you said, "Enjoy the rest of your day!" 
And I thought, I'm going to marry that guy.  (Not the toll collector.)

And now, nearly 20 years later, a lot has changed.  Glasses styles.  Hair color.  Important things, too.  But something hasn't changed.  You're still that ultimate mensch - the one that likes to bring joy to others.  The one that won't say no if someone asks for a favor.  The one that no one can say no to, if you ask a favor, because you are just so, so, so nice.

I couldn't have asked for a better role model in being a mensch.

Happy birthday, Sruly.

19 comments:

  1. what a delightful thing to say about your spouse 20 years later. May the next 20, and the 20 and the 20 after that be as wonderful or better.

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  2. Love your story, I remember paying attention once when my date walked out of a store to see if she would say a parting goodbye when she exited, and she did!

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  3. Phew! I thought it was the toll booth guy :-)
    Happy birthday to the menschiest man I know.

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  4. Happy birthday, Mr. Ruchi!

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    1. I wish there were a "like" button on the blog!

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  5. Happy birthday! Ad me'ah ve'esrim!!

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  6. That's what I say what I'm looking for. But no one seems to know what it means nowadays . . .

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    1. may you find the right one very soon! I enjoy reading your posts. Even though I rarely comment, I read every one.

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    2. Thank you! Love your writing as well. :D

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  7. Mazel tov on your birthday Mr Ruchi!

    And Mrs Sruly, I hope you do realize that I, and probably every other single gal out there (and possibly some married ones too) feel sooooooooooo jealous right now!

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    1. Oy!! May each find her mensch very soon! (and may the married ones discover the menschiness - or menschlichkeit in Yiddish - within very soon!)

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  8. I laughed out loud at the toll booth part!

    Love this post - happy birthday to your husband. It sounds like you are both very lucky to have each other!

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  9. This is the sweetest! Ad me'ah v'esrim to Rabbi Koval! Thank you for sharing this sweet snapshot of your wonderful husband.

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